Many men love to play chastity or a KTB.

They find the brain and physical pleasure or pain, in all cases, happiness for them.

Some are alone and hope to meet a woman who will love to play it but often the woman does not understand the pleasure that she could find in the chasteté.
This game should be a sharing, not a game for selfish men !

So according to you, what fun would it have to agree to play with you in chastity? What are the advantages for her to have a man chaste?

Mistress Elle

If a lady locks me up and holds my keys, I will be extremely aroused and wanting as soon as the lock clicks, and that feeling lasts for a few hours. During that time, I am quite willing to take her out to dinner, to rub her back, to sexually pleasure her with my fingers or preferably my tongue, to buy her gifts, clothes.

After a few hours have passed, those feeling fade a little, but I am very aware that I no longer can pleasure myself, that I am totally dependent on her to release me if or when she chooses. That makes me much more likely to want to cuddle, to give her back rubs, anything to get her in the mood for sex. I will do romantic things, perhaps bring chocolate, or flowers. As time goes by, my desire to please her increases. I want to please her so that she will remove my chastity and allow me an orgasm. This increased desire to please her so I can have my own release increases for a week or perhaps two.

After I have been locked up for a couple of weeks, my desire to orgasm begins to fade, yet I still feel very romantic toward my keyholder, and continue to want to give her pleasure in every way I can think to do it.
Clothes, dining out, travel, or simple cuddling - whatever she wants, I will do. She owns me. I am her slave.

I hope to find a keyholder who will enjoy letting me give her oral sex several times a day every day, and have me pleasure her with a strap-on whenever she wants it. One who will understand the power she has over me because I chose to give it to her, and use it to have everything she wants, and keep me forever.

Mistress Elle wrote:
Many men love to play chastity or a KTB.

They find the brain and physical pleasure or pain, in all cases, happiness for them.

Some are alone and hope to meet a woman who will love to play it but often the woman does not understand the pleasure that she could find in the chasteté.
This game should be a sharing, not a game for selfish men !

So according to you, what fun would it have to agree to play with you in chastity? What are the advantages for her to have a man chaste?

Mistress Elle

All the orgasms that she ever wants and none for me!

The 'benefits' listed above are still really male benefits not KH benefits.

The *real* benefits for a keyholder are KNOWING, (not wondering, not having faith, not suspecting) that the penis in chastity isn't doing anything it isn't supposed to. This gives a sense of well being that even your good man isn't doing anything behind your back, and can't be seduced by the sweet piece of ass at his work or whatever.

You *know* you have security. You *know* he is coming to you and only you for his sexual pleasure. If you are into control or a dominant person, you also get all the side benefits that that control gives you.

Perhaps you also like how it makes the locked up person behave.

These are the real benefits to the keyholder, but the first one I listed is the real primary benefit, in my opinion, because that is the reason chastity was invented in the first place, before it became a kink.

I will be happy to wear for my wife because with her KNOWING and not wondering, even though she trusts me, will make her relax in places she might not have known she was tense, and it will bring us closer together.

There is a difference between who won't go astray and one who canNOT go astray.

3 answers in 8 months ... Great !

It seems that men who wish chastity does not care about other things that their little pleasure.

Obviously the first 2 weeks are always good because the man made efforts to get his orgasm but after? After a few months? and although he doesn't make much effort!

So he is more concerned by his own pleasure than his KH's one.

This is not how you will motivate your wife to keep you locked in a cage.

Good thinking!

Mistress Elle

i have no issues about knowing or wondering what my good man is doing behind my back.the reason at first was to satisfy his fantasy and i didnt want no part of it,butafter having him chastity for almost three years,i now am never going to let him ever not be in chastity .he has become not only the perfect husband which my lady friends are all jealous,but he has become the perfect servant to all of my needs and all of the domestic duties.he has a chance at one orgasm per month if he follows all of his duties and does not violate my list of infractions and gets added time.

now THIS is a great question to ask of people whom are engage in the chastity lifestyle at the request and desire of the one being locked up. i ask this over and over again. And, i believe the answer depends somewhat on the type relationship.

for "married/dating" couples, i would think the keyholder's satisfaction in knowing that their spouse is kept faithful. Perhaps they enjoy being able to tease and deny. Or perhaps they want their spouse to be happy....

for "Master/slave" relationships, i would think the keyholder's satisfaction derives from the control they have over another.

For a keyholder/locked relationships, i would suspect that the keyholder likes the control. Perhaps they have negotiated some form of payment- such as helping out with chores, for example, which eases the keyholder's life?

this can be a difficult question to answer.... if one member is kept chase, doesn't that force the other member into defacto chastity? again, i suppose it all depends on the relationship and the individuals in the relationship- i'd love to hear more opinions out there.....

One of the best things about this website and forum is the various experience levels and interests of the participants. chastity is everything from foreplay to a lifestyle. It
may start out as a game with the lockup time being determined by a throw of the dice. As Ms. Elle states, it may be about selfish pleasure- submission does impose
a burden upon the dominant partner. There have to be some benefits to being the dominant partner, or else why bother?
What about when the relationship matures, when it is no longer a game, but a life- style? A while ago, we put away the die (1 dot= 1 week). My chastity and hense,
my sexual submission is now permanent. She is no longer obligated in any way to
deny herself penetrative sex, or to grant me any release other than to maintain my
prostate health. She therefore is the dominant sexual partner who no longer has the
burden to perform for her submissive. She has the freedom to do as she pleases,
when she pleases.
People are happiest and most fulfilled when they are true to or closest to their own
individual nature. chastity has led us to this point.