The seemingly endless variations on the BDSM/Chastity scene is not only amazing, but also a good drawing point. It allows people a individuals, couples, threesies etc. to explore and experiment with their sexuality as well as experiencing their physical and psychological/emotional responses to different scenarios and roles.

However there are those in the community who prefer to have things codified and standardized and often tell others that they are doing things the "wrong" way and that the scene should be played from some script(s) floating around the Internet and in books, magazine articles, and among various societies, clubs. The simple fact there are various societies, clubs certainly belies the assertion that there is one way to live it or play it. A basic recipe can serve as a stew or salad whose ingedients can be added, subtacted, simmered or tossed with different spices, sauces or dressings.
(E.G Add salt to taste.) To each, his/her own.

This just seems a more open approach to the develpment of a diverse and inclusive community. Those who prefer a rigidly structured, uniformly codified, and scripted scenario are entitled to maintain that, but not to dictate the methods, approaches, whys and wherefores of a lifestyle or play style. Certainly (and just as an example) not every Dom/Domme wants to hear "Sir" or "Mistress" before and after every utterance or to forbid their subs to look them in the face without permission. Is that to be considered "wrong," as incompatible with the scene?

Yet have heard "newbies" asking for information, advice, suggestions being told there were specific and "proper" ways to do things and additions, substractions, and variations (other than extraneous circunstances like: the neighbors can hear, there's company present, the climate) are beyond the pale, not true to the style.
Granted, this is distinctly a minority, but a minority that can be very insisent and vocal.

Found the variations, switches people mentioned in this forum as interesting experiments and explorations that may open up new areas of pleasure for the partcipants and suggestions for others to try. Yet how many times have we heard people ask if their "switch" was a "good" or "permissible" action? Of course, people may wish for validation of their choices, but my response might be "sounds great" or "not for me, but have fun."

After almost 25 years as Dom/Control/Discipline Top, and at the then age of 56, i was "flipped" to sub/slave/son and the switch (both the action and the implement) seem permanent. The process is not yet complete--lots of things to both learn and unlearn, attitudes and behavior to change, habits to break and adopt. We have not thought about a switch of roles, but i can say i'm not ready to try since the switch (action) needs more time to become firmly established and the switch (implement) probably needs to be applied more. This will lessen the threat to my adjustment that even a temporary change in roles would likely cause.

So, i say to the switchers: Good for you, Sounds like fun and a challenge, Have fun and let us know how it turned out!