Lockup of indeterminate length

I took the weekend off from chastity play since we had guests and I didn't want to have to worry about accidental discovery. I locked back up yesterday around noon with a short term, if somewhat undefined goal. You see, this week is spring break for my wife. As much as I would love to be in the sack with her every day this week, her monthly cycle started last Saturday. I am hoping that she will be done and ready to play as early as tomorrow.

Of course, there are some complicating factors. While my wife has never had what I'd call a high sex drive, it is particularly low in the days immediately following her period. Also, she has a mid-term on Monday of next week so she can't really just lounge around and relax all week long. Although I'm obviously hoping she'll realize we should not let this week go by without at least one round of mattress dancing, it would not be entirely out of character for her to announce that it's just not going to work. Or, at the very least, she will put it off until the last minute and then suddenly have a headache. I'm not just being pessimistic here. Plenty of precedence has been been established over our 20+ years of marriage for me to see this as a very possible outcome.

So anyway, my goal is to stay locked up until my wife is ready to have sex or Thursday afternoon at the earliest. I was going to wait until Friday afternoon but going that long without relief might negatively impact my performance should my wife decide she's in the mood.

avoiding detection | goals | sex

Lesson Learned

Well, I've learned something about myself and self-imposed chastity. If I don't have a specific goal, I have far less self control. It was no more than two or three hours after my last blog post that the device came off any chance of extending my lock up and denial record came to an end. I've been out of the device ever since. Before I lock up again, I need to set a goal then determine the right day to start the lock up so it fits in with my wife's, and my life's, schedule. Then I must immediately lock the main key in the lock box and send the combination photo to the keyholder website. I seem to be pretty good about not using the emergency key. I'll try to spend some time figuring all that out in the next day or two.

chastity | goals

What to do?

Between Thursday night and Sunday morning, I'd say I was locked up about 50% of the time. Even when I was wearing it, I was only doing so to not lose any progress my body was making on getting used to having it on. My wife has a head cold so I pretty much "entertained myself" on Friday and Saturday. By late Saturday morning, my mind began to consider what my next chastity goal would be. I locked back up on Saturday afternoon although I did take it back off Sunday afternoon for a few hours to make a few things easier on me. It had only been a little of 24 hours so I wasn't worried about lacking the will power to keep from cheating.

At this point, I'm not entirely sure what my goal is. If I stay locked up until Thursday again, that would be 1 day longer than the last time. That seems like a reasonable goal from both an orgasm denial point of view and the continuous wearing of the CB-3000 point of view. However, Thursday morning is one of the two best opportunities I have to have sex with my wife (due to her schedule) and if I've gone 5 days without release, I'm not going to last all that long should I get the opportunity. That's not going to make her very happy and could cause a problem with her tolerance of my self-imposed chastity play. If I'd ever had even a little bit of success at milking my prostate, I'd give that a try as that might be enough for me to avoid popping off too soon. The other option would be to unlock myself for a ruined orgasm on Tuesday but I can count the number of times I've really made my self stop and completely ruin it on one hand and have several fingers left over. I always start off fully intending to ruin it, but when the moment arrives, I don't have the will power to let it slip away. I'll figure something out, I guess.

On a positive note, I've determined that I can ride the stationary bikes at my gym with no problem while wearing the CB-3000. The next step will be to see if I can comfortable ride my road bike. I'll probably have to wait a week or so for the weather to warm up a bit before I try that. The two things that worry me about the road bike is the much narrower shape of the saddle and the fact that being bent over on a rode bike for an hour or two frequently causes me to "turtle up" pretty significantly. I'm worried that I'll slip out of the device and I have no idea what kind of discomfort/pain/damage that might cause.

chastity | goals | sex | exercise

Free At Last!

I went to bed Wednesday night before the website gave me the combination to the safe. I resigned myself to having to wait until the house was empty Thursday morning before I could unlock and get some relief. I did manage to doze off, but woke up around midnight with the symptoms of a frustrated erection. I decided I might as well see if the combination was available, but as I was walking out of the bedroom, my wife was coming upstairs to go to bed. She asked me what I was doing and I had a decision to make.

You see, my wife knows all about the CB-3000 so that's not a secret. However, even after 20+ years of marriage, I still get a little embarrassed about the subject of masturbation. It's no big deal to talk about it with her in general terms, but I didn't want to say, "Oh, I'm going to go masturbate." So I just said I was going to take the cage off because it was bothering me. Fortunately, the combination was available because if it wasn't, I'd have had to either break into emergency key or gone back to bed with the cage still on which would have required explaining the whole lock box/website thing to her. (It's not something I'm trying to keep from her; I just haven't had time to tell her about and I didn't want to explain the whole process to her that late at night.) The good news was that the aching of the frustrated erection was gone, but I didn't have time to relieve myself without her knowing what I was doing. Somehow I managed to get to sleep and as soon as I had a few minutes of privacy on Thursday morning, well, let's just say a long four days came to an end. I can't even imagine what's it going to feel like after longer lockup periods.

I wore the cage about half the day yesterday but took it off again when I needed to do some unplanned plumbing repair on the kitchen sink last night. I decided not to put it back on when I was finished because I have an appointment at the doctor's office this morning and, while the visit has absolutely nothing to do with anything that would require me to drop my pants, I'd just as soon not take the chance. I'll put it back on when I get home but I'll probably wait until Monday before starting another lockup period with the website.

And Now For A Brief Moment Of Panic

Yes, I had a brief moment of panic yesterday. I had to go a county building yesterday and just before I left the house, it occurred to me that they may have metal detectors at the doors now. Although I've heard time and again that the little padlocks don't usually set off airport detectors, I figured with my luck, I'd be subjected to a strip search. Unfortunately, my main key is still locked in a key safe until sometime tonight or tomorrow. I only had two choices, risk it or use the emergency key.

My concern about using the emergency key was that while I didn't have time to fool around before leaving, I didn't trust myself to get locked back up ASAP when I got back home. Then I had what I think of was a pretty good, spur-of-the-moment idea. I grabbed the emergency key and one of those plastic locks that came with my CB-3000. On the way to the county building, I pulled into an empty parking lot along the way and swapped the plastic lock for the padlock. Problem solved! Naturally, when I arrived at my destination, I discovered they did NOT have detectors so all of this effort was unnecessary. Still, I'm glad I kept those plastic locks and somewhat proud of myself for maintaining my self-imposed chastity.

My original plan was just leave the plastic lock in place and use the notification from the keyholder website that it was time to cut the lock. However, I decided to go ahead and swap it back and take that opportunity to remove the 1/8" spacer taking me down from 1/2" to 3/8" in gap. I'm having to deal with the guide posts poke me, but I figured it be good to go at least 24 hours with the smaller gap before trimming the posts. Again, I deliberately made the swap very carefully without removing the cage and got the padlock locked back on before I could change my mind. I was very tempted to. The good news is that the smaller gap size is not causing any problems. I'll get it trimmed down tomorrow when I'm finally unlocked.

I am SO ready to be out of this cage. It's getting harder (pun intended) by the hour to just be patient and wait for the website to give me the combination to the key safe. It's even worse knowing it's very possible that they key will become available at a time when I either don't have privacy or close to a time when there's a possibility for sex with my wife.

adjustments | emergency key | avoiding detection

No Joy

As bad luck would have it, my wife was too busy and definitely not in the mood to have any fun last night. I reset the combination on my key safe and uploaded a pic to the keyholder website. I set it for a release time of late morning on Thursday then told it to randomize a release time near the end. I told it to give me an approximate release time instead of the hot/cold indicator and it is showing a time that is around midnight Wednesday night. I'm going to assume that it will be sometime in the wee hours of Thursday morning and I'll end up having to wait until I have the house to myself before I can get the key and unlock. That will be 5 days since my last orgasm. That's no big deal to long time chastity enthusiasts, but for a newbie, it will be a nice achievement.

I've actually gone longer than 5 days on willpower alone, but it's quite different when wearing the device. It is a CONSTANT reminder that I can't have an orgasm. I can't even tease myself. When I was doing it on willpower, I would still masturbate to the edge at least a couple of times a day. I thought that was making it harder to meet my goal, but now I'm not so sure. At least during the other times of the day, my mind could be completely off of sex. But while I've finally gotten the CB-3000 adjusted to a point that it is reasonable comfortable, I'm almost always aware of it. I'm hoping that will change over time and I'll become so used to it that I don't notice it because I just don't see how I can extend voluntary chastity more than a few days otherwise.

chastity | keyholder.r307.com | goals

Free Weekend

I gave myself the weekend off but locked back up this morning. I'm trying out the #4 ring since it seems that I may have already stretched out a little. I'm hoping I don't have any problems with it because it seems that the smaller the ring, the easier it is to walk and sit normally. I'm going to keep a close eye on things today and see how it goes.

There's also a chance I might get lucky with the wife tonight. She's spent most of the weekend studying for a big test she has this afternoon. She' got a test in another class this coming Thursday, but I'm hoping she'll want to have a little fun time this evening. However, if she doesn't want to, the cage won't come off (assuming the new ring size is okay). I will reset my key safe and set the unlock time to Thursday morning.

adjustments | sex

Virtual Keyholder

I decided to try the keyholder website and make that my next goal. However, I'm just doing an approximately 1 day lockup right now. I uploaded the picture with the combination to my key safe last night. The website has a fun feature that let's you pick an amount of time to be locked up then optionally randomize the exact moment the picture is available for downloading. I set the amount of time for two days then set the randomizer to pick a point of time somewhere in the middle of that. That means that at some point tonight, I will be able to download the image and get my key back.

The weird thing is that I'm SO turned on right now! It's taking all my willpower to keep from ripping open an emergency key. Before I had a device, the longest I was able to deny myself through willpower alone was 8 days. The first few days were no big deal. In the two weeks or so that I've had a CB, it's a temptation from day 1 every time I lock myself up. Now that I've added in the fact that I'd have to break open an emergency key to get out, the intensity has gone through the roof! I'm having a hard time getting in work done because I keep logging onto the keyholder website hoping the file is ready.

Now I know that a one day lockup is no big deal. However, I am technically still working through some adjustments and trying to find the right combination of hinge padding and spots that need lubrication that I don't want to commit to a longer lockup yet. I'll get there. I just don't want to get into the habit of getting into the emergency key even if I don't cheat and lock myself right back up. I'm trying to maintain a discipline of considering the emergency key something that should only be used for a real emergency (or if my wife wants to have sex).

Looking forward, I think at some point, I may have to get the CB-6000. The extra care in dealing with padding the hinge in the rings is really annoying and I'd like to be able to experiment with smaller gaps between the cage and the rings without having the guide pins poking me. My biggest worry about the 6000, though, is the seemingly high frequency of seam splits coupled with the fact that the seams run top and bottom instead of each side. If the split is on the bottom and pinches your scrotum, I imagine it would be a lot harder and more painful to get the cage off.

Actually cage splits worry me with the 3000 as well. I'd like to figure out some way to reinforce the seams in advance. If anyone has any ideas, please let me know. If there is a solution that will work for both the 3000 and the 6000 I may go ahead and order it.

keyholder.r307.com | emergency key | cage split prevention

Getting Lucky!

The big news today is that my wife came home from school for lunch and had some time before she had to go back. She indicated that after she ate and unwound from the stress of taking a test this morning that she'd be up for some fun. I unlocked myself and got cleaned up so I'd be ready when she was. (She tolerates my CB but prefers not to have to deal with it.) We had a great time. I only wish she hadn't had to go back to school so we could have taken more time with it.

I waited until she left for school before locking back up. It turned out to be very good timing for me because just this morning I had finally found the toe bandages I'd read about and now I had an opportunity to try one out. I'm hoping it will work out better than the band-aides I've been putting over the hinge until now. So far, so good.

I don't know if anyone is actually reading this blog, but if so, I mentioned in my previous post that my goal was to stay locked up this time (with exceptions for cleaning) until my wife was ready for sex. I had originally expected that to be Friday at the earliest. While I'm very pleased to have had the opportunity to have sex, it has left me temporarily goal-less now that I've locked myself back up. Although there are certainly exceptions, my wife's sexual needs combined with her stressful school workload usually equate to once or twice a month. That means that it is quite possible it will be around another 2 weeks before we have sex again and I'm not ready to commit to that length of a lockup just yet. Eventually I will be ready for that, but I'm trying to build a string of successes as positive reinforcement and I don't want to set an unreasonable goal and not make it.

One possible goal is to try out keyholder.r307.com for just a couple of days and see how it goes. It looks like a pretty cool website. I might even contact the authors and suggest an additional feature or two once I've played around with it some.

One of the things I find really interesting is how hard it is to keep the device on right now. There's this part of me that reasoning that since I've had an orgasm today, why not just have one or two more before locking up again? That date of last orgasm doesn't change, right? Go for it! It seems that willpower is just as important immediately after release as it is when several days go by. The real "fun" will start when I remove willpower from the equation!

sex | goals | keyholder.r307.com

1 Day Locked

I went to the gym this morning, but I skipped the showers. I had planned on going for it, but I had a teleconference call scheduled for this morning and I ended up not having time after my workout for a shower. Plus, I forgot to bring any Q-tips so I wouldn't have had a good way to clean inside the cage. We'll see how it goes tomorrow.

I had really hoped that my wife and I would have an opportunity for sex this morning. Unfortunately she woke up with a headache and I had that teleconference followed up by a dentist appointment. By the time I finally got back from the dentist, she had to get ready to go to school. Hopefully, it will work out tonight. I really hope so because even though I've only been locked up a little over 24 hours, I'm really feeling the need for an orgasm. I can only hope as I get more used to wearing the CB-3000 that I won't ALWAYS feel horny. I mean, I need to be able to concentrate on work, ya know?

Well, regardless of what happens tonight, my goal is to stay locked up until my wife is ready to have sex no matter how long that is. Let me modify that statement. My goal is to refrain from having an orgasm until that point. I may have to unlock to check on my skin given the rash I had last week. However, I'm really hoping I can stay in the device the entire time because, honestly, if I take this thing off, I don't think I could keep myself from taking matters in to my own hands.

cleaning | goals

Back in Lock Up Mode

I took a 4 day break from my CB-3000 to give the rash time to heal. We also had company over for part of the weekend and I didn't feel like having to worry about it since I'm still a novice at having it on and what can and can't be concealed. (A bit of an excuse, but I was genuinely a little worried about). Since the Mrs. wasn't interested in "celebrating" Valentine's Day, I went to bed somewhat frustrated. Once I had the house to myself (I work from home), I took a little bit of time to have some fun and made the decision to lock back up.

Since I'm thinking the cause of the rash was too much moisture, I'm not using baby oil this time. I just a very small amount of lube and managed to get the cage on with a little bit of effort and (fortunately) minimal discomfort. I then used a q-tip to get my penis positioned well and to soak up as much lube as possible. I realize it's only been a few hours, but the only difference between using baby oil and not is that it's a little more difficult to get lined up with the slot when going to the restroom. I'm sure I'll adapt.

My wife has a big test at school on Thursday and if history is any indication, she will not have any time nor interest in sex until Thursday evening at the earliest. My plan is to stay locked up at least until then and hope I get lucky. That would be a little over 48 hours. If she's too tired and/or not in the mood that night, I'm going to try to remain locked until whatever day she is ready, but I will definitely release myself at even the slightest hint of a rash returning.

Besides being hyper-vigilant on keeping my skin healthy down there, my other big test this week will be to go to the gym. I need to start spending some time getting some cardio workouts in and I'll need to be able to do it locked up. The only big question is if I'll attempt showering while I'm there. We have individual shower stalls with curtains, but you have to get undressed at some point so that will be scary. Public humiliation is NOT a turn on for me so I may pass on the showers. I guess I'll just see how it goes.

Oops!

Well, it turns out that redness may not have been caused by a rough spot on the cage after all. Within hours of making my last blog post, I noticed that the redness was beginning to spread. It was a rash; probably jock itch. I started treating it immediately and it already looks almost gone. I'm going to keep aggressively treating it over the weekend and should be good to go starting on Monday. However, I'm going to have to find a different solution for getting into the cage. I guess I'll just try a small amount of lube since that will likely evaporate completely at some point.

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Short Break

My 48 hour continuous lockup ended during the middle of the day yesterday so I took everything off and checked all my parts out as best I could. There was a slight redness on the right side of the base of my penis but it wasn't bothering me. I decided to wash myself thoroughly and lock myself back up until today. I figured the 30 minutes or so I was out wouldn't matter when checking for skin conditions. I just unlocked myself a little while ago and discovered that the spot look even more red today though it still isn't bothering me in the slightest. Upon very careful inspection of my CB-3000 cage, I discovered that there was a very slight imperfection at the seam on the right side. I'm guessing that since my jeans force the cage to the left side of the crotch, it's pressing the right side of the cage into the side of my penis. I'll have to get some very fine sandpaper and try to smooth it out. If anyone has any other suggestions, I'd love to hear them.

Looking forward, I went out and bought a key safe yesterday and also created my emergency keys by baking them inside of clay formed into what was supposed to be an orb. Well, it's plainly obvious to anyone that ever sees these things that I am not a sculptor. They look terrible! However, I think they will work perfectly. It wouldn't take much effort to break them open but I can tell you that the effort involved in making even crappy looking ones will discourage me from breaking one open just because I'm horny.

Now that the emergency keys are handled and once the cage has been sufficiently smoothed out, the only remaining obstacle will be overcoming my ability to have an orgasm while wearing the cage. While it's a bit of a disappointment that I can have any kind of an orgasm, I'll readily admit that it's a lot of work and not entirely satisfying. On the other hand, it's a source of some very erotic mental imagery and since my chastity is self-imposed (for now) for my own enjoyment, does it really matter?

Wrapping up, I hope to find some suggestions for smoothing the cage and get that done tomorrow. We have family coming over to visit for the weekend so I probably hold off on locking myself back up until they leave on Sunday. That should give me time to heal up so I can start a 3 day lock up.

emergency key | chastity | adjustments

Day 7

I am nearing the end of my 7th day of owning a CB-3000. I'm actually very pleased with how quickly I seem to have dialed in the proper fitting. I still need to file down the guide posts a little more, but I'll take care of that the next time I take the device off. They are actually short enough if I'm naked, but my jeans force the cage to flex a little to one side and that side's post pushes out past the ring and ever so slightly rubs my skin. That should be easy enough to take care of.

I am currently working on a 48 hour continuous lockup. I've been slowly extending the lockup time as I watch my skin for signs of any kind of irritation. So far, so good. I can tell already, however, this is going to be hard on me once I start playing for real. I'm crazy horny almost all the time and having a hard time concentrating on work. It's been a huge test of my willpower to keep from just unlocking myself and taking care of business. But I have to determine what my physical limits are before I can get serious about lock up time. I think a large part of my excitement is just because I'm finally getting to experience something I've fantasized about for so long.

Speaking of getting serious, I've also spent some time thinking about what kind of chastity game to play once I've decided the fit is good enough. My first thought was to get a key safe and use the TimeLock program to do some short term lock-ups (5-10 days). I still need to get the key safe but I have gone out and bought a replacement luggage lock so I can have more than one key. I actually have 4 keys now. One will go in the safe, two of them will be emergency keys kept in my truck and in my nightstand, and the last one I'll give to my wife. While she isn't interested in being an actual "keyholder", I do want to her to have a key should the stars align and the opportunity for us to have sex occurs.

I'm trying to come up with a way to have emergency keys available yet not easily usable. Since I don't have a key holder that cares whether or not I unlock myself, I need to make the use of the emergency key somehow unpalatable to me. I'm thinking of perhaps baking the emergency keys into orbs made from clay obtained from the local hobby store. My hope is that they will be sturdy enough to roll around in my truck change tray (or my nightstand drawer) but be easily broken to retrieve the key should an actual emergency come up. I thought about just wrapping the keys up in tape but that could take a while to undo in an emergency and there's no disincentive if I just get really worked up. Breaking one of the homemade orbs would require me taking the time to make another one to "reset" the emergency key after use. It's not a huge deal in the grand scheme of things, but I'm hoping it will be enough of an effort to make me think about it and not use it if it isn't really an emergency.

One final though for this blog entry. I expect there to be a little discomfort to wearing a chastity belt. I mean, I'm putting a plastic contraption over my genitals that they weren't designed to accommodate. Fair enough and I know I just need to tough it out. What I hadn't planned on was just how much itching I was going to have to deal with from shaving.  The itching is WAY more annoying than the aching when erections are prevented or the rubbing of the ring on the bottom of my balls. I'll keep things trimmed pretty short from now on but I am DONE with shaving!

chastity | chastity games | emergency key | shaving

Getting Started

(This post was originally a thread I started in the "Trip in the Belt" forums. I made it on Feb 3, 2010. I'm re-posting it here as it's a pretty decent introductory post for a blog. I may make a few alterations here and there but it will largely be the same information.)

After literally years of thinking/fantasizing about chastity play, I finally ordered a CB-3000 last Monday (Feb 1, 2010) from www.stockroom.com. I was on their site to order another toy for me and my wife. I checked on the prices for chastity devices (as I always do) and was pleasantly surprised to see they were selling the complete kit for around $90. I don't remember if that's a permanent price drop or just a Valentine's Day special, but I just couldn't pass up the deal. It arrived just a few hours ago and I'm already wearing it.

I've been following groups/forums/websites about chastity since the CB-2000 was brand new but never took the plunge until now. While the price was always a factor, the main reason was that I hadn't told my wife about my interest until this past summer. She doesn't fully understand it but we played around with it a little bit (with the honor system on my part, of course) with mixed results.

I am starting out the largest ring and the middle lock pin with enough spacers that the backward-facing guide pins don't stick out more than about 1/4". I am really hoping it won't take long to drop down a ring size or two because the big ring really feels awkward. It doesn't hurt, it just feels like it's taking up too much space. I'm also looking forward to being able to shorten those pins once I arrive at the final size.

I'm a bit concerned about cleaning. I don't think I ever realized just how snug a fit it would be (in circumference) even when I wasn't aroused. That makes sense now that I can see it on me, of course. Still, I can see it's going to be a bit of an effort to stay reasonably clean while wearing it. I have a detachable shower head so that's a plus but I am worried about getting everything dried off well enough to prevent moisture related skin problems. I read on one website about using Q-tips but that seems like an awkward and incomplete solution at best. That same website (keptforher.com I think) said the tube should be put on without lube. Not happening!

I don't have any particular plans or goals for my chastity "trip." I have no intention of or interest in staying locked up or denied orgasm for months at a time. My short term goal is to just play with it and get comfortable with the device and use it to fuel my fantasies. Longer term, I'd like to use it for a week or two at a time where my wife is the keyholder and we play some of the various chastity games that are floating around on various sites involving being let out for T&D or ruined orgams or even full orgasms if I'm really lucky. At this point in our lives, however, my wife is heavily involved in a graduate school program and is way too stressed to think about this kind of thing. It will probably be summer of 2011 before we can even think about that kind of weeks-long sexual activity. Until then, I'll just mess around with my own games always keeping an emergency key handy for those times when my wife wants to "spend some quality time" together. In my book, that's a perfectly valid use of an emergency key!

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